“What are you going to do after you finish university?”
I have been asked this question by a few people recently and today I sat down and thought about my future. After thinking about where I would live, jobs and family I realised that there were many parallels with my family’s past. These are questions that everyone asks themselves and as I am in my second year at university, I need to start thinking of my future not as something in the far distance but as reality. I finish my undergraduate studies in 2016, I need to think what next? More studying? A Job? Where am I going to live?
I have a number of friends in university who have decided that they want to emigrate to Italy for at least a year, would I want to emigrate? Yes. That’s the simple answer, yes I would love to emigrate and live in many different countries for a minimum of a year but where? How would I choose? I have only been to Paris and some Spanish Islands, I haven’t been anywhere else, so how am I going to choose. Well, I know I want to go to Paris and Rome in the near future on holiday so that would help my decision. However, my mother has always said I was born in the wrong country, that I should have been born in America. That made me think, America would I move there? The answer: Yes, I would love to live in New York but is this because everything looks greener on the other side of the fence? I don’t want to be the person who dreamt their entire life of moving away from the small village they were from but never left and regret it because I know I would.
If I moved to America that would be a parallel to a few of my ancestors. There’s Mr Hillman who left for America, leaving his wife and young daughter in Wales who never returned, we have no idea where he went, he arrived in America and disappeared. There is Edmund Turner George (1849-1906) who was born in Wales and moved to America. We can find him and a cousin in Chicago at the time of the Chicago Fire 1871, unfortunately his cousin was one of the many people of lost their lives during the fire, according to family stories. We later find Edmund settling in Kansas with his wife and their 4 children. The majority of his descendants still live in America.
I would love to be a teacher, to inspire students to love history as much as I do. To learn from our past mistakes so we never make a repeat of these mistakes. My passion for history was sparked by my history teacher of 5 years, Mr Regulski. His enthusiasm for his subject, particularly Nazi Germany sparked my enthusiasm and he was the person who suggested doing a history degree at Swansea University. He was right, it has been the best decision I have made, I love it here. Mr Regulski would tell us stories of lecturers at university and there was his personal tutor, Steve. I can see that his personal tutor influenced his teaching because last year I had the same personal tutor and saw similarities between the two of them. I want to like them both, to be able to make students ask questions. As far as I know there are no teachers in my family but there are many people who have inspired me in my close family and those who I have discovered while researching my family.
When answering the question about my future, I added that I know that I want children and that made some of my friends stop. You want children? They couldn’t see themselves having children and could believe that I was so dead set of having them. Children and marriage is the only thing I have known since I was a little girl that I wanted. Being as the university consider “disabled”, makes that slightly difficult, it just means that like everything else in my life I will have to plan it, no surprises which is ok with me. This decision, of getting married and children will not happen for a long time as I haven’t even finished university yet. However, it is a decision that everyone has to make at some point in their lives, I am just lucky that I have already decided.
We are lucky that in the Untied Kingdom, we can make that choice of to get married or not, to have children or not. As previous generations did not have a choice, you had to have children to work on the land, if you were a girl you would have to get married or be a burden on your families.
The answers to these questions I know can change but I know that they won’t. I don’t want to live in my small village for the rest of my life I want to explore the world, experience different cultures. I want to be the person who can inspire students, even if it is just one. I want to get married and have children, to share my experiences with, so they will have a family history to tell their families.